How can you happily make a hard choice in life?
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Every one of us in our lives has to make one or the other hard choices. Be it choosing a career or leaving the job, you face hard decisions all the time. But are hard choices really are hard for you? Do you find them at par that you can't decide between two of them? We would see how hard life choices can be and how to choose the best for you. Let's find out how you can happily make a hard choice and not regret it in life.
The safe play
As a rational being, humans try to compare the possibilities of their choices. They put the choices at par and evaluate the best option for them. This is the general human tendency to choose the best for themselves. In the event of making a hard choice, the human brain acts like a quantifier. We jot down the decisive point of both the opportunities and analyze the outcome from each of them.
When we come to a choice that is equally desirable to us, we play safe. We try to pick the most reliable option for us and avoid the risky one. But is playing safe always the best we can do? The answer could be NO. A weird human tendency is to measure the choices by keeping them at par. But is it really the right stuff to do? Are the options really at par, or are we not able to decide the better one?
The essence of value
All the above questions are undoubtedly tough to answer! Let's try working on them. We, as rational beings, compare everything in quantities. We feel that we can decide which option is more valuable and which is less. But this is not how value or feelings work. We can not compare two feelings at all. The feelings that are associated with the choices are not quantifiable. We cannot compare feelings to be lesser, more significant, or at par with others.
It is here we realize that to decide the best option, we give ourselves reasons. We lure ourselves for one of them, which our heart truly wants. And the option we choose by giving ourselves the reason makes us what we are. This phenomena of dealing with choices make us the person we are at this moment. We give ourselves reasons to believe what's best for us. If ever we would live a life where every choice is easy, we won't be who we are. We would be the slave of our choices. The reasons we give to ourselves makes us different from others.
The real deal
In life, every day, there is a hard choice waiting for us. As we keep unfolding our experience, we will be presented with the worst of life decisions. In those times, believe in yourself and who you are. Give yourselves reason to believe your choices. Listen to your heart. When life gives you the worst of options, you'll happily make a decision and bloom.